4) Life Choice: To Tell the Truth? [Categories: Life Choice, Making Connections]: Please complete the following:
In this week of class, I am going to write about the argument of the family's choice to deceive Wang's grandmother from What You Don't Know (Lulu Wang) and the narrative story of my important choice to tell the truth or lie that had a major impact on me or someone else. Before writing about the argument, I would like to summarize the story of What You Don't Know. Wang's grandmother, NaiNai, was diagnosed with stage four lung cancer and given no more than three months to live. Lulu wanted to tell the truth to her grandmother and comfort her, but her family decided to lie as they only wanted to give her joy according to a Chinese traditional belief, mental health is related to physical health.
Even though mental health can some kind be connected to physical health, I don't think it is the right way to deceive NaiNai instead of being hospitalized. First of all, every one may not enjoy being deceived. Imagine which situation will hurt us more if our beloved one is cheating and get caught by us or he let us know he can no longer be your beloved one beforehand. For sure, we will be angrier and sadder if we are dumped than knowing the truth. If NaiNai may later realize the truth by suffering the symptoms of the cancer, she will feel shocked. If she knew before the things got worse, she might be able to make up her mind to withstand the pain. Adapted from "Caine Scrutiny" by Lawrence Eisenberg, in any situation in life that is negative, there is something positive you can do with it." Thus, at least, she got three months when she could fulfill her wishes before she died. She may want to take care of something like travelling to Japan or America where she can see her sons and granddaughter or admitting her sin if she has or doing good deeds or saying goodbye to someone she love. By doing so, it will be better for her to accept the death. In spite of the fact that her family worried she would be shocked and her mental health would be disturbed if she knew her situation, she might be able to manage and endure the truth as she is old enough to make her own decision. Thus, in my opinion, deceiving NaiNai is like underestimating her decision towards her life and health. "You must not be in a relationship with someone before you can stand on your own.", said my father. " You are not allowed to have a boyfriend or girlfriend before you settle your own life." said my mother, aunts, uncles and relatives. That kind of words don't startle not only me but also my siblings and cousins as we hear frequently. Due to the words, we don't dare to admit our relationship status openly to our family. Just for fun, I asked them if we cannot find our spouse even though we settle down. They said they can find the arranged marriage for us. They believe that we will not be able to concentrate on our own life especially education when we are in the relationship, and we may get married to the bad guys without proper thoughts and struggle our lives before if we are in the relationship. In my country, it is the tradition that young people must follow to older people's words without contradicting. Thus, we cannot rebel against them. What if we do so? When i was 18, i got my first boyfriend. I wanted to date but I cannot go out unless my school time. I had no choice but i took absent from some of my classes. One day, my uncle told me that someone saw me, holding hand and crossing the road. Also my mom with the red eyes, almost about to cry asked me," Are you dating without studying? How dare you are! You don't even know properly whether that guy is good or not". I also am tired of hiding things out. I burst out the truth. I have no idea why they can't even look at our points of view. A 18-year-old child is not too young to take care of their own things. "You should let us separate what is right or wrong with our own thoughts, experiences, not your belief. Being in a relationship doesn't mean that I am going to marry him right now. We are still looking at each other if we can continue or not. Let me take care of my own relationship, I am old enough.", I said to my mother. The result was all of my relatives pointed me that I am a rude and spoil child. After that, I cannot go out by myself but only with my other cousin and no longer dating. I realized that they don't deserve to know the truth.
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9/24/2017 07:41:15 pm
Zun, I agree with your opinion that deceiving Nainai isn't the right thing to do. I think you raise an interesting point that, perhaps she would like to admit her sins, if she knew. It would be unfortunate if she never got the chance to do so.
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